Attack of Mr Cold feet.
You may visualize yourself on a rickety rowing boat heading out into tempestuous seas with nothing but the sounds of the hull cracking and splintering to drown out the sounds of your snot-bubble yelping. If this is the case then you need to raise your head out of the sand well before the big day to balance up the pros and cons and share your anxieties with loved ones.
If you’re adamant that you want to marry your beloved and it’s purely the wedding day and all it encompasses that is causing you to have cold feet then look no further.
Permit me to be crude for a mo. One of the best relaxation techniques known to mankind is to bash the Bishop like you’re competing in the ‘Whack-a-Mole World Championships.’ Clearly there’s a time and a place for this tried and tested method. As an alternative to risking going blind or rocking up on your wedding day with palms furrier than Chewbacca I’d recommend you engulf yourself in your favourite past time. Whether it be playing Darts, bench-pressing in your garage or going for a run it really doesn’t matter. As long as you’re releasing mother nature’s opiates ‘Mr Endorphins’ and distracting yourself then job’s a good un. An awesome practice to control your breathing, improve your focus and provide relaxation is Yoga. Don’t knock it until you’ve tried it. “Ommmmmm”.
If you’re Cristiano Ronaldo lining up a free-kick for Real Madrid or Tommy ‘Tripod’ placing the ball on the penalty spot for a chance to score the winner for the Nag’s Head in the final of their pub league cup; success comes more often than not to the person who positively visualizes where they are going to place that ball. In relation to the wedding day and dispelling the nerves leading to the Cold Feet I have heard that a visit to the Church with your Best man or close friends or family is an incredibly useful idea. You have the luxury of having the information to positively visualize how your day is going to look. The sights, smells and noises all help to visualize how amazing your wedding day is going to be. Meeting the Vicar on your own or with the ball & chain-to-be is a great opportunity to ask all the questions you need to be clued up as much as possible.
A problem shared
We all know it’s true. If you’re struggling to get your noggin around a problem, talk it over with a close friend or family member and the gathering dark clouds soon part way for a little sunshine. The Best man and Usher’s roles are not restricted to 24 hours. If they read the small print on their contracts then they will realize that they are the wind beneath your wings from the proposal all the way through to the Chicken-dancing and the ‘Aga-do-dos’ on the wedding night.
In a nutshell
Nerves can get the better of anyone. Getting married is a bit of a Ron Burgundy. It’s kind of a big deal, so it’s natural to be a tad nervous. If you bury your head in the sand like a big ole flustered Ostrich then you have two ‘hopes’ of a successful nuptial experience. No ‘hope’ & Bob ‘Hope’. Rest in peace Bob. Talk your anxieties over with somebody close to you; engage in stress relieving activities; visit the wedding venue and in the words of Bob Marley “Don’t worry, about a ting. Coz every little ting is gonna be alright.” Keep smiling.
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